One Strawberry Milk, Hold the Nutrition…

Posted by: Viviana | Posted on: September 22, 2008 | Comments 13

Recently, something has taken hold of me--something rather foreign in nature. My husband is equally afflicted (and equally perplexed by this turn of events). We've decided to start eating healthier foods.

I delved into this with an enthusiasm and work ethic that any career woman would recognize: I treated it as I would a new assignment at work. I did research, outlined some steps, forecasted, budgeted, implemented, and met a self-imposed deadline. Books and articles about the evils of food additives littered my nightstand, and words like "detox" and "free-range" found their way into my vocabulary. Dish Diva and fwm expert contributor Carolyn O'Neil became my new best friend (check her out on Alton Brown's Good Eats show on The Food Network and you'll see why).

My son, who is a first-grader, generally has little input into the family meal plan. However, he noticed the conspicuous absence of the single serving strawberry milk cartons I used to buy to make his day (The sugar! The artificial coloring! I could go on and on). He made mention of this, let's just say, on a regular basis. Very regular. He practically threatened to hire an attorney.

I gave this some thought and now my cart contains organic vegetables, soy this and that, brown rice, and yes...strawberry milk. Why? In part because I know he eats an otherwise amazingly healthy diet, but mostly because he likes it and being balanced is NOT about being perfect, correct?

Besides, the thought of costly litigation frightens me.


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Renata said:
09.22.08 9:58 p.m.
Viv -- you've hit the nail on the head, my dear! How many times have I decided to tackle a new goal (exercising, organizing, being a better wife/mother/friend -- fill in the blank), only to tumble from complete exhaustion and defeat into my previous routines and roles? Moderation IS key. Three times a week at the gym is better than zero. One organized cupboard is better than none. And I'll never be the perfect wife, but I know for a fact my husband would love even the smallest gesture of replacing, okay, just ONE of my oversized t-shirts with the semblance of feminine sleepwear. So give your little fella his strawberry milk, and revel in the knowledge that THAT is his vice. Beats the heck out of a bag of doritos.
Emma said:
09.23.08 4:41 a.m.
Anything in moderation is good, it is the obsession of healthy eating that can be your downfall. striking a perfect balance is important, especially with children. in life it is best to pick your fights carefully. there are too many to tackle them all...
Viviana said:
09.23.08 6:18 a.m.
AGREED, both of you...if anyone wants to glance inside my grocery cart and turn up their nose, they can! It's been a lifelong challenge for me (and for most women, I suspect) to accept the fact that progress is to be celebrated, even though it falls far short of achievement. Another good point to remember is that all human beings fall far short of perfection--it's a given. If anyone you know presents the illusion of perfection, they are either lying to you or lying to themselves.
nutrition said:
09.23.08 7:41 a.m.
I do agree with your article. Healthy eating is now a priority with the increase of food which is manufactured specially and made superior through technological processes. The study of nourishment through food is known as nutrition. I also suggest vegetables and natural foods are the best alternatives to have a healthy diet. Thank you!
deb said:
09.23.08 10:34 a.m.
Perfectionism! Ah! I actually had an argument with a friend the other day over pizza. Yep. Pizza. I wanted some. I'd been craving it for weeks! And she kept screaming, "No! Don't do it! You've worked so hard!" See, I've lost 85 pounds in the past year. And I'm working with a personal trainer (which is hard and it hurts....ha) to get in better shape, and lose a little more weight. My friends intentions were good. She kept reminding me how hard I've worked and not to "throw it all away." I had the pizza. You know why? Because it really is about balance. I do not intend to go through my entire life without pizza. (ha) And it's never the occasional slice that gets you anyway. It's having the entire pizza.....with breadsticks....at least once a week. Moderation in all things. Thanks for the reminder, Viviana! All the best! deb
Viviana said:
09.24.08 4:29 p.m.
Too funny, Deb! I didn't know about your tremendous accomplishment--good for you! I agree that the balance of a little pizza is better than a perfectionist plan of never, ever eating XYZ again. Those are the plans that fail.
Lori R said:
09.25.08 5:40 p.m.
NOT being a perfectionist in my career (and my life) has been a big challenge for me. I have literally been told by my supervisor that I spend too much time obsessing over little details that do not matter, to the point that productivity suffers. I think that we think we are doing a fabulous job when we spend endless hours making sure that Every. Single. Detail. is perfect beyond measure, but we are not. Knowing what to focus on and what to let go requires discernment and savvy.
Brenda Tillett said:
09.25.08 8:13 p.m.
This was very cute and funny! I once survived a perfectionist office mate. We went through a move to new office space, and several of us moved from a cubicle farm to two person offices. My mate was positively obsessed with the position of the desks and other minutae. He also DID NOT UNPACK HIS BOXES for two months! Why? "I'm waiting until I have time to do it exactly the way I want it done." He did a worse job in all of his efforts to do a perfect job.
Viviana said:
09.27.08 5:14 p.m.
Wonderful comments all around, ladies...I'm glad this made you chuckle. Aside from the obvious career issues, motherhood also is an absolute breeding ground for perfectionism and its evil twin, smug judgement of others. My personal opinion is that I can have a personal opinion. :-) About most things, that is. So...if we're talking about safely installing car seats and using them, no one is more of a safety nazi than I. However, if it's a lesser issue such as organic food, it's OK to make a choice and not beat yourself up about it.
Lori R said:
09.28.08 1:52 p.m.
I also meant to mention my diet perfectionism. Not that I am doing a wonderful job with this, oh no! What I mean is that I'll eat a little something I'm not supposed to, and that causes me to feel that it's hopeless so I eat a lot more of whatever it is! If I could just keep in mind that, as Renata said, moderation is key, I would stick with the program far longer.
Coach Karen G said:
09.28.08 9:31 p.m.
What a great blog and topic! Good for you for doing what feels right for you! It looks as if you recognized that the only people you need to be concerned about is your family. When it comes down to it, if we can create our own measurement of what is perfect for us rather than compare ourselves to other people's standards, we will have a lot less worry, a greater sense of relief, and that whole balance thing will really be achieved.
Viviana said:
09.29.08 6:17 p.m.
So nice to see you, Karen! You hit upon an important point...at the root of much perfectionism is that nagging worry about what other people are doing, or what they may think of what we are doing.
Corinne said:
09.29.08 7:10 p.m.
I am in the process of learning a hard lesson about worrying about what others will think! I live in a big city, and I'm looking at private schools for my little budding pre-schooler. I've asked around among all of my neighbors and friends, and what I've learned most is that people have VERY strong opinions! Of course, the same two people will not love the same school. In fact, people often look with disdain upon a school that the previous person praised to the skies. At first, for some reason, I actually worried about what this neighbor or that friend would think if I picked a school they had turned their nose up about. Incredible!
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